WARNING: Rant Alert
I’m not exactly what you would call a massive party goer, I go out for special occasions and that’s pretty much it. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it, on the contrary I do, I love going out with my girlfriends and having a good dance whilst getting a bit merry but, after a few strange nights out in different cities around the UK I have a bone to pick with guys. Specifically groups of guys (or boys) because let’s be honest the ones that cause problems still haven’t fully grown up yet.
I’m sure there’ll be a few people out there questioning why I’m writing this, well no I’m not a big crude or a raging feminist I’m just a 21 year old girl who wants to be able to go out and feel comfortable that I’m not going to get groped or harassed on a night out. The other point I want to clarify is that I am fully aware that not all guys are like this, I know there are people out there going into clubs for the same reason I am, but that small percentage that don’t and that are inappropriate really need to take a long hard look in the mirror.
The main thing I’ve noticed is that when the ‘lads club’ mentality kicks in it’s as if they are a pack of lions searching for their first prey. You can literally see the guys that are there to pull, I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that but have some charm and wit about you, if you start pushing into girlsto get their attention doesn’t that tell you something? You wouldn’t start pushing a girl if you saw her in the street to show you like her, so why does it apply in clubs?
Don’t grab girls that have shown no interest in you. Your ego may find this hard to comprehend but the girl you have taken a fancy to may not feel the same way. She might just not find you attractive or not have even noticed you are there, you grabbing her arse or pulling her towards you is NOT the way to tell her you like her. It seriously is not nice being groped by roaming hands whilst trying to have a good time. If a girl turned around and grabbed your bits and bobs randomly would you think that was ok? The answer is probably yes… because you probably have no morals. I have seen this happen so many times to girls that just don’t know what’s going on, I’m sure lots of people have good intentions and they are just having a laugh but being dragged unwillingly into a group of 6 strange guys is not a nice feeling.
Think about what you’re saying before you go shouting insults at a girl who has turned you down. I don’t think I need to go into detail about this one because it’s pretty self-explanatory. Basically, you look like a fool calling a girl fat or ugly that 5 minutes ago you were making your intentions a little too clear.
If she asks you to stop and leave her alone don’t carry on pestering her. This is my main pet peeve, if you’ve made an advance on her and she’s turned you down don’t think that’s her way of saying ‘make more of an effort’ it’s her telling you to back the f off. Usually guys think this is their queue to turn up the creepy factor and get closer, then the girl gets mad and you start getting defensive. There has been many of times were I’ve nearly clocked guys for not getting the hint, don’t act surprised if girls get angry with you if your harassing them, because when you think about it, that’s what you’re doing and that’s not OK.
Finally, be a bloody gentleman! I don’t mean were a flat cap and kiss our hand I mean be a nice person. Say hello, ask if they want a drink or a dance, I guarantee this will go down better than a cheeky bum pinch.
I am fully aware this kind of makes me sound like an old-fashioned, out dated old woman but you knowwhat – I really don’t care. I am fed up with guys thinking a night club is a good way to take advantage of girls. I’m sure there are girls out there that disagree with me and that’s fine, each to their own, but from what I’ve seen and experienced I felt it needed to be said!